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Aug 11, 2022·edited Aug 11, 2022

Thanks yet again for your tireless work to protect the vulnerable and your laser like capacity to catch the justification of all kinds of abuse buried in our culture. I have been a fan of Oscar Wilde for many years. I never connected him with pedophilia. I cannot put my hands on it now. However I did start to read a book written by Canadian Lesbian mothers who adopted a son. They wrote it seemed to me about classic Greek culture's view that " loving" relationships between older Greek men and boys was very healthy for sexuality. I may have misread this and cannot quickly find this book. At the time, my late husband was ill and I was trying to learn all I could about how to raise boys. I was raised as a Roman Catholic in Ireland and received zero sexual education. My family were caring and loving. However my mother volunteered my services as a baby-sitter for people she barely knew , when I was thirteen and I effectively fended off some very unwanted overtures from very drunken adults. I remember being really mad at my mother for being me into a potentially risky situation. As my husband was ill, I was the parent that attended all kinds of sporting events with our sons. Based on my own frequent unsolicited overtures as a young woman , I tried to be vigilant to protect our sons, when they were younger. I volunteered ,whenever a parent was allowed to attend any sports related activities, which involved overnight stays. Despite my best efforts. My younger son recently shared that a young woman hired as a care-giver for my late husband had begun to touch my son inappropriately on one occasion , when he was eleven. My son moved away from this young woman quickly and for a number of reasons I did not hire her. She was a new immigrant, very personable and pretty. She expressed a lot of negativity about her Middle Eastern homeland and I strongly suspect that she might have been molested or neglected herself.

It seems protecting children requires great vigilance even, when we as parents and guardians are trying to protect and raise children with love. It is very concerning to think of the vast numbers of babies and children, who are orphaned, abandoned, abused and neglected.https://www.who.int/health-topics/violence-against-children#tab=tab_1

Have you considered writing a book for allies of the LGBTQ community on how best to protect all children from sexual abuse ? This is a topic about which I seek to be as educated as possible. Thanks for your work.

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